The Therapeutic Alliance with Parents and their Children Working Through a Relational Trauma in the Family

This study is about how a therapeutic alliance is created and maintained with parents and their children working through a relational trauma. A case study design with narrative analysis as a method of research (Riessman, 2008) and a narrative approach of storying stories, inspired by McCormack (2000), is used. The participants of this study are the parents and their four children, aged between 14 and 5 years, and their systemic therapist. Rich data on the therapeutic alliance is gathered through, two live-family session observations and seven interviews, six of which were with the family members, and a two-part interview held with their therapist. Results show that the way of being of the therapist, including her ability to be intuitive and self-reflexive, and her ability to keep manoeuvrability in conversation and hold neutrality support her to connect with all the family. Creating conjoint and separate therapeutic spaces, using a creative play-based approach and navigating an alliance with the school and medical professionals, were important suggestions for practice in the field. Additionally, collaborating with parents, and balancing the benefits and drawbacks of involving children to make therapy meaningful for all, are also suggested. Specific recommendations for engagement with siblings of the identified-problem child are elicited. The strength of this study is that children’s voices, along with those of their parents’ and their systemic therapist are reported. Suggestions for practice to support children and their families who are working through a relational trauma are brought forward.