“It’s like being stuck on an unsafe and unpredictable rollercoaster”: Experiencing substance use problems in a partner

Living with a partner with substance abuse problems may induce strains in an individual’s everyday life, including poor health, disrupted family life, and social isolation; this may lead to dropping out of education or work, a lack of safety and support, and facing various dilemmas and stigma. AIM: The purpose of this study was to explore these partners’ everyday life experiences, including their parental roles. METHOD: A qualitative design comprising qualitative interviews with ten partners and ex-partners was performed, and a thematic analysis was used. RESULTS: The findings demonstrated that sharing their lives, including parenthood, with a partner with substance use problems affected every aspect of the participants’ lives, and entailed being influenced by their partner’s ups and downs. The overall theme, “being stuck on an unsafe and unpredictable rollercoaster”, is explored through three themes: “dilemmas, stigma, and shame”, “lack of safety, security, and support,” and “searching for hope and meaning.” CONCLUSION: As a result of the negative impact of their circumstances on their everyday lives, these individuals need support to handle the challenges that they face, but often find it difficult to ask for help. Peer support groups seemed helpful in enabling them to find ways out of their situation.