Romantic Relationships and Adults with IDD in Inclusive Supported Living: Considerations, Complexities, and Opportunities

The love and companionship provided from romantic relationships is a right for all adults, yet many adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD) have been unable to experience these forms of relationship. This study investigates the experiences and perspectives on romantic relationships regarding adults with IDD involved in an inclusive supported living program. We asked residents with IDD, their parents, graduate student residents (without disabilities), and organization staff for their insights into the romantic relationships of adults with IDD and how the organization could better support those relationships. The residents with IDD described romantic relationships in various ways, but all emphasized their importance. Participants discussed an array of challenges in this area, including difficulty meeting people to date, challenges with social skills, and a lack of comprehensive sexual education. Likewise, the study noted a number of tensions that arise when supporting adults with IDD to pursue romantic relationships, including their comfort addressing this area, navigating dignity of risk, and acceptance from family members. The residents, parents, and staff members also provided helpful recommendations for how supported living organizations can most effectively support individuals with IDD in romantic relationships.